Being a military spouse for twenty-two years, I understand change. I remember one time my mother-in-law told me she did not know how I accepted moving every two to three years. I remember thinking I did not know I had a choice. See, I married a Navy man which meant someone in my life was either coming or going. Every rotation, my prayers were the same. God, I need a place to live. God, I don’t think we have enough money. God, I need a friend. I know I am not the only one because prayer books are made specifically for military spouses. The weird thing is that change became a friend.
Each duty station, I was given the freedom to modify any character flaws. It was one of the most significant gifts the military life gave me. There was no one to remind me of my old self. I always use this little story to teach my ladies about people. If you want to keep a crab from climbing out of the bucket, then put another one in there with him. The two crabs will always keep pulling the other down. Unfortunately, we all have someone in our lives that will do their best to keep us from positive growth. Since everyone at the new duty station was unknown to me, I had every opportunity in the world to become a godly woman.
It is curious to me how the issues in life that make us uneasy are usually the very thing that builds our self-confidence. Here is the catch, though, that I have learned. You can go kicking and screaming through rough times, or you can go with a little dignity. I have done both, and I highly recommend a little dignity. My home life is peaceful because I refuse to let that bitter, angry person inside me rule my house. God and I have worked hard to develop a wise woman that builds up her home.
So, since 2020 has become this bizarre unknown ride, let’s all determine to allow the constant change to develop us instead of consuming us. You never know the blessing that could be right around the corner. God is the best at surprises.
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